A note to men

Grow some balls and get a green flag.

I went on a date in LA a few weeks ago. She was nice but she wasn’t for me and I wasn’t for her. I think we both knew that early on.

We were both old enough and mature enough to discuss our past lives and exes and she asked me about my ex-wife. “I have a rule” I replied, “I never say anything bad about her.” She smiled and said, “you know, it’s such a red flag when men talk about their ‘psycho’ exes.” I agreed. “I have my story” I explained, “and she has hers, and somewhere in the middle, is probably where the truth lies.”

I am a firm believer in that idea nowadays. However right I think I am, however much confirmation bias I have amassed, however much I have villainised my ex in my mind, as she has done to me; most of what we gather in evidence is designed to justify our actions and fortify our positions and often that is at the expense of truth. I know objectively that however right I think I am, I’m probably only half right.

So guys, when you’re on a date, just remember, you might have a psycho ex, but your date has heard it all before. In fact, in someone’s eyes, she probably is one, but then so are you.